Stopping self-deception should be a priority for each of us. Relationships can be complicated and challenging, especially when one does not admit the truth. The key to a healthy and fulfilling relationship lies in seeing clearly how you are treated and what you truly deserve. It is time to face reality and stop turning a blind eye to the facts.
Often, one falls into the illusion that things will change. One believes in their partner's promises and thinks, 'Maybe it will be better next week' or 'After the vacation, everything will be different.' These thoughts are fleeting and lead to further pain. It is important to recognize that true change must come from within and not through empty promises on the surface.
Clarity about your needs
To know how you want to be treated, you must first become clear about your own needs. What is important to you in a relationship? Respect, support, love? Write these points down and keep them in mind. If your partner does not treat you the way you wish, you should seriously consider the future. Avoid harboring false hopes; hope alone cannot change reality.
Remember, your needs are non-negotiable. You deserve to be treated with love and respect. If your partner is unable or unwilling to give you what you deserve, it only shows that it is better for both of you to go your separate ways. As painful as it may be, it is important to prioritize yourself in such situations. Do not wait for someone to change, but recognize reality and act accordingly.
Leave the excuses behind
"He had a bad day" or "She is only like this sometimes" – excuses we tell ourselves to justify our partner's behavior. Such excuses can lead you to spend time with someone who does not provide what you need. Every relationship has its ups and downs, but a constant lack of trust or respectful behavior is a warning sign that should not be ignored.
Cut out the stories you tell yourself. The truth hurts, but it will help you gain clarity. Once you leave the excuses behind, you will be able to accept reality and see that you can have better options in life. You deserve someone to give you the respect you deserve.
Take the step towards change
When you realize that your relationship does not give you what you deserve, the next step is to change something. This does not necessarily mean that you have to break up immediately, but it may mean taking more space for yourself and thinking about what you really want. Communication is key. Talk to your partner about your feelings and what you need. Perhaps an honest conversation can lead to improvements.
Remember: changes do not happen overnight. It takes both partners to work on the relationship, and if only one is willing, it will not work. It is a painful but sometimes necessary decision to muster the courage to take the first step and prioritize your needs. You must fight for your own quality of life.
In the end, it is important to put yourself first and not to lie to yourself. You deserve a relationship that fulfills you and brings you joy. Let go of what doesn’t work and open your heart to better possibilities. Recognize your worth and fight to be treated with respect and love. It may be a long road, but the journey is worth it.
